The Continuum Project

The Continuum Project is dedicated to presenting the inexhaustible range of human tendencies upon continuums, spanning two extremes with a central area where balance is found. Perceiving traits on a continuum instead of assigning fixed labels to your own character or that of others encourages acceptance, self-compassion, and empathy. This approach challenges indoctrinated beliefs that we have internalized, which often determine the labels we assign to ourselves and others. Each continuum offers an opportunity to observe, understand, and transform how we relate to ourselves and the world.

This effort has expanded over the past six years to help people develop their capacity to observe experience rather than becoming entangled in emotional reactions. Our reactions to what we like or dislike, or what we consider acceptable or unacceptable, trigger stress-inducing judgments not only within ourselves, but also toward others. The more often we operate within the middle area between any two extremes of a given human tendency, the more we enter a spacious, balanced state, becoming calm, competent, and content in that dimension.

Interestingly, what we often react to most strongly in others reflects something we dislike about ourselves. The extremes at each end of the continuum act like mirrors, highlighting tendencies we are least comfortable with in our own behavior. For instance, if we find ourselves harshly judging someone for being selfish, it might stem from our discomfort with our own moments of selfishness—or even from feeling self-neglectful and secretly resenting it. By recognizing this dynamic, our judgment evolves into awareness, understanding that these reactions are opportunities to explore and embrace the full spectrum of our tendencies.

Like Spherology, the platform from which the Continuum Project was launched is rooted in the exploration of non-duality. This approach helps bring the abstract (and, to some, seemingly impractical) concept of non-duality into a tangible form—one that we can name, observe, and actively work with. New continuums are frequently added, and readers are encouraged to contribute those they may discover to enrich the growing list.

To effectively work with continuums, start by identifying tendencies that evoke a strong reaction in you—positively or negatively (this may be an aversion or an attraction). Next, determine what lies at the opposite extreme of that tendency. This provides clarity about the full spectrum of tendencies being explored. Then, name the overarching dimension that connects these extremes, helping you conceptualize the continuum as a whole. Finally, identify what exists between the two extremes—a middle point that represents balance or harmony within this dimension.

These four steps are outlined below:

1. Identify Strong Reactions
   Begin by noticing tendencies in yourself or others that evoke a strong emotional reaction, this may be aversion or attraction, These are often tied to deeply held beliefs or unresolved feelings.
2. Map the Opposite Tendency
   Determine what lies at the opposite end of the continuum for that tendency. This gives you a clear view of the spectrum and the extremes.
3. Name the Dimension
   Identify the overarching human tendency or quality that unites these extremes, such as energy levels, confidence, or attitudes toward self-worth.
4. Locate the Balance Point
   Reflect on what exists in the space between the extremes. This is the point of balance, where neither extreme dominates, and a healthier, more integrated expression of the tendency emerges.

This is an example of the 4 steps when applied to a continuum that governs Autonomy and Connection:

Dimension: Interdependence

1. Tendency at one extreme: Neediness and Dependency
   • Characteristics: Over-reliance on others for emotional, physical, or social needs. A constant seeking of reassurance, approval, or support to feel secure.
   • Typical Reactions: Feeling powerless, unable to function independently, and overwhelmed by fear of abandonment or rejection.
2. Tendency at other extreme: Rigid Self-Reliance
   • Characteristics: A strong preference for self-sufficiency to the point of rejecting help, support, or emotional connection. Fear of vulnerability or dependence on others.
   • Typical Reactions: Pushing others away, emotionally shutting down, or believing that relying on anyone is a weakness.
3. Overarching Dimension: Interdependence
   • This continuum reflects the tension between two fundamental human needs: the need for connection with others and the need for autonomy and self-sufficiency.
4. The Balancing Point: Balanced Autonomy and Connection
   • Characteristics: A harmonious blend of connection and independence. Individuals in this state can ask for help or express vulnerability when needed, while remaining grounded. They also provide support to others while maintaining boundaries that respect their own needs.
   • Behaviors: Clear communication, mutual respect, and the ability to both give and receive love, support, and care without feeling overly dependent or isolated.

The following are additional examples of human tendencies placed on Continuums:

1. Extremes on Continuum: Restlessness vs. Lethargy

• Overarching Dimension: Energy regulation
• Middle Point: Calm vitality—feeling energized yet grounded, where action is purposeful but not frantic.

2. Extremes on Continuum: Self-Righteousness/Arrogance vs. Self-Doubt/Insecurity

• Overarching Dimension: Confidence
• Middle Point: Humble confidence—feeling secure and able to share experiences without feeling the need to assert superiority or undervalue yourself.

3. Extremes on Continuum: Indulgence vs. Deprivation

• Overarching Dimension: Self-discipline
• Middle Point: Moderation—being able to enjoy pleasures responsibly while maintaining a sense of control and fulfillment.

4. Extremes on Continuum: Self-Absorption (Selfishness) vs. Self-Neglect (Over-Selflessness)

• Overarching Dimension: Worthiness
• Middle Point: Self-respect and compassion for others—meeting one’s needs while considering others.

5. Extremes on Continuum: Neediness/Dependency vs. Rigid Self-Reliance

• Overarching Dimension: Autonomy and Connection
• Middle Point: Interdependence—balanced emotional availability.

These examples illustrate how mapping continuums can help us gain insight into the vast range of human tendencies. By viewing these on a continuum rather than categorizing tendencies as “good” or “bad”, we cultivate a balanced and compassionate perspective.

Once you’ve designed a continuum, take the opportunity to explore your relationship with the specific issues it represents. Spend time reflecting on your thoughts, experiences, and the values you’ve adopted or rejected in connection to these issues. Consider your upbringing as well as later experiences that exposed you to perspectives on both ends of the continuum. Observe your reactions during these times.

Next, imagine a specific example from this reflection that stands out to you. How might your reaction to that situation have changed if you had approached it with a broader, more objective perspective—focusing on how all traits manifest across the continuum?

This approach acknowledges that behaviors exist on a spectrum, influenced by context and circumstances, rather than being permanent traits. By recognizing this fluidity, judgments are reduced (both favorable and unfavorable),  and the diverse ways individuals express themselves are acknowledged. This allows us to engage in meaningful change without the burden of restrictive labels.